The Power and Attractiveness of Vulnerability in Dating

The Power and Attractiveness of Vulnerability in Dating

"Man up!", "Don't show emotion", "Real men don't talk about their problems or tell anybody about their struggles. It makes you look weak and turns women off". Most if not all men, at one time or another in their lives, hear these phrases from critical parents, teachers, male colleagues, and, of course, in the toxic Manosphere.

How has this advice served you? Has made you really feel more confident and in control? Has it made your first impressions truly more impactful? Has it brought the type of woman you actually desire into your life?

This is where vulnerability comes into play. Many men confuse vulnerability with being needy and desperate, and there is, unfortunately, plenty of advice on the internet to support that idiotic connotation. But here's the real deal:

Vulnerability is NOT neediness. It does note serve to obtain sympathy or approval.

Vulnerability means acknowledging and accepting the fact that you are human and that you have flaws. It also means expressing those flaws shamelessly.

This is not about becoming overly emotional and breaking down in tears over your insecurities or past traumas while on a date.

It's about expressing your true self in such a way as to relate to someone on a natural, human level.

This attracts like-minded, high-value women and repels the type of women who have been causing you to feel overwhelmed and hopeless in your dating life.

Do you see how empowering vulnerability can be!?!?

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Thanks for reading!

-Dan Aguilera