Kick the Victim Mindset in Dating
Kick the Victim Mindset in Dating
Do you ever feel like things are just rigged against you in the current dating market?
Do you feel resentful towards other men who seemingly have all the luck with the kind of women you desire and that these same women just don't notice you?
Do you find yourself often saying things like "If I were only taller, funnier, and had more money, I'd have that kind of success with women too" or "I'll never find the type of woman I want"?
I used to feel like this constantly as well and I can assure you, this is not reality. It is pure VICTIMIZATION.
Now sure, playing the victim is rewarding in some misleading ways.
It garners us sympathy, gives us a FALSE sense of power, puts us above others, and releases us of responsibility. This makes playing the victim ADDICTING.
It becomes increasingly familiar and comfortable, structuring the world around us and narrowing the lens through which we perceive our experiences.
But victimization is the OPPOSITE of empowerment. Think about it. It implies that you have no control over anything that happens to you and gives all the power to women to "approve of" or "validate" you.
So how do can you break free from the victim trap in your dating life???
Become your own hero. No one else is coming to save you and magically improve your life just because they feel sorry for you.
Realize and accept that your lack of success with women may not be your fault, but it is your RESPONSIBILITY to make the necessary changes to improve your success.
Understand that it is YOUR responsibility to break this vicious cycle of victimizing yourself for not having your needs met.
These are ESSENTIAL for having positive dating experiences and building healthy relationships.
If this article resonates with you, but you feel that you may benefit for having more personal 1-1 support, I encourage you to book a call with me on my calendar to see if my program is a good fit for you.
-Dan Aguilera
