Why Intelligent Men Are Feeling Stuck and Single

Why Intelligent Men Are Feeling Stuck and Single

By Dan Aguilera

You're successful, intelligent, and have everything going well for you in your life. Women should naturally be drawn to you, right?

Well, that unfortunately is not necessarily always the case.

You may feel like you're doing everything right and may be feeling frustrated that you can't seem to find a woman who admires and respects the same values as you.

This is something I've noticed for a long time from my own dating history as well as those of friends and colleagues, and therefore, it has become the backbone of my coaching business.

Rest assured, you are not alone in feeling this way. In case you're wondering why good women seem to feel like they're hard to find for you, here are some reasons why I feel that you, as a highly intellectual man, might be struggling to connect with the women you date.

1) You are very logical. Of course, this is essential in business, but it can be detrimental in your dating life. Your extremely logical mind may be limiting your ability to express emotion and connect with women on an emotional level.

2) You are emotionally dependent on the outcome. You ask a woman out because you want her to say yes. If she doesn't, you feel that you must have "failed" in some way. This mindset leads to over-thinking and over-strategizing the way you approach women. The sad part is, women can sense this and might turn you down for a date, not necessarily because she doesn't find you attractive, but because she feels that you are performing and not being your genuine self.

3) You view dating as transactional. Your guy friends have probably roasted you before for spending money on a woman on a date and not getting sex or even a kiss "in return". You might even feel resentful when this happens and become hostile to the woman, feeling like you've been "wronged".

4) You have this sense of "dating entitlement". I know this one might bruise your ego and be forcing your fist to clench, but allow me to explain. Going back to my opening paragraphs, you may think that because you have all the professional qualifications and social status a woman could admire, that they should be lining up in droves to date you. Let's be real, it's not that simple. WOMEN are the ones who need to feel desired, and that often doesn't happen if she's the one to make the first move. It's up to YOU to make your intentions clear and pursue with passion.

I hope you found this article helpful and I'd love to hear your feedback if you feel that I left something out. If this is an area of your life that you feel like you could use some personalized guidance on, I encourage you to book a 1-1 complimentary coaching session with me so that I can get to know you on a personal level and work alongside you to make some drastic changes in your dating life.