A Man's Self-Awareness

For the majority of men in today’s culture, the art of dating and pursuing women can often feel like competing with other men for a trophy.

Here’s the way the game goes:

Find an amazingly beautiful woman, drop one of your recycled pick-up lines on her to “get her” to like find you interesting, make a physical move, escalate things to the bedroom, and, regardless of whether or not you see her again, you now have bragging rights among your male cohorts and they will see you as “alpha” and ‘high-value”, right?

Well, not so much….

A big reason so many guys feel discouraged today I feel is because they see dating as a competition rather than a personal lifestyle choice. 

The goal in this competition seems to be this:

Men are encouraged to get as many women as possible interested in them with their “game” and convince these women to have sex with them to “up their body count” all while minimizing their own investment in the woman as much as possible.

Yet at the same time, men are often shamed by their guy friends for wanting a relationship rather than casual sex with multiple partners.

This ACCELERATES a man’s neediness and desire for validation from women.

Ironically, as many of us man are finally coming to realize nowadays, this gets us the opposite results from what we are looking for and the vicious cycle just continues.

But you don’t have to compete in this childish, toxic rat race.  Not if you can come to understand the value of and harness your own SELF-AWARENESS.

Self-awareness means being grounded in who you are as a man, knowing what your values are, and having clarity on what you are trying to accomplish in your dating life as well as the type of partner you want to attract.

Self-awareness is crucial because integrity, intentionality, and showing up as your true self is WAY more attractive to women than trying to be something you’re not just to live up to some societal standard in order to achieve the outcome you’re looking for (sex).

Self-awareness also weeds out those women whose values and life goals do not align with yours and helps you reframe rejection in a healthier light.

This will save you A LOT of time, money, and frustration chasing women who will not serve you long-term and have high potential to become your next “crazy ex’.

I hope you guys found value in this article.  I could literally talk about self-awareness for hours, but I like to keep my content concise and to the point.

If you feel that you or any of your male friends might benefit from more personalized support, I encourage you to review the program layout for Dating Mastery for Entrepreneurs and book a 1-1 call with me to discuss if my program is a good fit for you. 

Thanks for reading!